Ways of The Prophet (S.A.W)

Certain events

It has been narrated by a man of Bani Sawa: I asked Hadrat Aishah about the disposition of the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam). She replied, ‘Do you not find in the Holy QURAAN? You are of a high standard of character (meaning that the QURAAN bears testimony that his disposition was of the highest standard. This description of his manners is enough). Then I asked her to tell me something about it which may come as a commentary on this verse. Hadrat Aishah said, “Once I cooked some food for him and Hadrat Hafsah also did the same. I asked my maid servant to go (and see) if Hadrat Hafsa brings meals and serves it before mine is served. Hafsa brought the meals and my maid-servant upset the plate, which fell down and was broken. (However the food fell on the piece of leather spread for serving meals and the eatables were not wasted). The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) collected the food and told Hadrat Hafsa “Settle your account with Aishah” i.e. take a plate in replacement of your one.

Note: The intention behind compensation was to comfort Hadrat Hafsa (Radi Allaahu Ta’ala Anha) so that she may not have the impression that the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) had tolerated the action of Hazrat Aisha. Giving so much consideration to such petty matters is a positive proof of his extreme kindness, civility and far-sightedness.

Hadrat Aishah (Radi Allaahu Ta’ala Anha) narrated:

I brought some harra (a preparation of dry fruits, milk and sugar) which I had prepared for him. I asked Hadrat Sauda (Radi Allaahu Ta’ala Anha), who happened to be there, to join us but due to some reason she refused to take. I told her: ‘Either you eat or I shall apply it on your face. Still she did not agree. So I took some harrah in my hand and applied it on her face. The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) saw this and laughed. Then he pressed me with his hand, (so that I might not be able to resist) and directed Hadrat Sauda (Radi Allaahu Ta’ala Anhu) to do the same and accordingly she also applied the paste on my face. The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) then laughed. [Jami-ul-Fawaid of Mousl]

Note: This is clear indication of his civility and the love and good relationship among his wives.

Hadis: It has been narrated by Hadrat Aishah (Radi Allaahu Ta’ala Anha). One night the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) left me and went out. I under the impression that he might have gone to one of his other wives, although this impression was neither sound nor warranted in the light of his self-imposed practice, even if justice in this matter was not an obligation on his part. Hadrat Aishah (Radi Allaahu Ta’ala Anha) could reasonably have been suspicious but was helpless against nature. So she attributed it to jealousy which is natural. [Nasrut-Tib]

Then he returned and seeing what I was doing in nervousness, said, Aisha what has happened to you? Are you jealous? I replied, There is no reason why a loving one like me should not be jealous of a loveable one like you.” The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said, Your Satan seized you.” I asked him, “O Apostle of ALLAH! is there my Satan with me? He replied, Yes. (it is not particular to you). Everyone has a Satan with him. I asked with you too, O Apostle of ALLAH!” he replied “Yes But my Lord (Exalted be his Glory) has provided me with requisite assistance to face the Satan so much so that I am immune now.” (or according to another tradition the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) is reported to have said that the Satan accepted Islam).

Hadrat Aishah (Radi Allaahu Ta’ala An ha) narrated:

Whenever the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) spoke about Hadrat Khadijah (Radi Allahu Ta’ala’anha) he spoke highly of her and one day when he did so, I became envious of her and said, Why do you speak so much about a women whose corners of the mouth were red (due to loss of teeth the skin had turned red and become visible) and ALLAH (the most high) has given you a better one (i.e. myself). He replied, “ALLAH has not given me better than her. (In other words you are not better than her) because she came forward to believe in me when others rejected me and bore testimony at a stage when others denied my bonafide. She provided me with financial assistance at a time when others held back their hands (i.e. no one showed any sympathy to me as after the declaration of Prophethood, people had become malicious). And ALLAH (the most high) also favored me with children by her, while I did not get children by other wives”. [Musnad Ahmad]

(From the above it is evident that his affection for Hazrat Khadijah was stronger than for Hadrat Aisha although the requisites of natural affection were more in favor of Hadrat Aisha than Hadrat Khadijah)